
In existential therapy, the “life of the hour” and what is unfolding in this very moment is used as a tool to help healing.
I have worked with supervisors who taught me to harness these moments and transform and expand the energy of the safe healing moments to other aspects of life. Another tool is to go beneath the surface of a client’s words, silences, what is left unsaid or the nervous tone, subtle giggles
SLH-Subterranean life of the hour -James F.T.Bugental (1915-2008)
James Bugental, was the President of the Association for Humanistic Psychology (1967). He coined the term “subterranean life of the hour” to describe the implicit, unspoken undercurrents in session. This helps develop deeper understanding of feelings, meanings, existential concerns. The different dimensions of SLH include (but is not limited to)
1- Presence and Absence Shifts
How much each is fully engaged or avoiding or going on tangents
2- Non verbal cues
The tone, volume, silence, interruptions, bodily tension, hesitations and energy of the room
3-Existential themes
Themes such as freedom, mortality, isolation, meaning that may not be consciously acknowledged but shape the therapeutic moment.
4- The Living Process Underneath
Listening not only to what is said but also to the living process underneath, the background, development and energy of the therapeutic relationship. How one shows up for the sessions and willingness or unwillingness (it is an evolving spectrum) to engage and be accountable.
Case Scenario
Consider a man in his 40s who has just ended a 15-year marriage. He now lives with a new partner, but both have decided not to not get married and just see how things develop. He feels unsettled about how he has to repeat same things again and again but his partner does not seem to get it. There is uneasiness about the hours spent in work -juggling between clients and extended family in different time zones and then spending weekends in costly dinners and outings.
When the therapist gently suggests exploring how his or his partner’s family of origin and family of creation issues (both have had previous marriages) may be shaping his struggles, he lashes out angrily:
Client (C ) : I don’t want to talk about my family or the past. That’s not why I came here!”
Therapist (T): (feels the sting of his anger but resists retreating into intellectual explanations)
I can feel your pushback. Something in our relationship tells me that we want to explore this moment, not go anywhere else
Principle: Instead of intellectual explanations, use reflection, touch on the “life of the hour” and the “Subterranean life of the hour” to harness the fears which fuel the anger. Leverage the fear of losing control, or being engulfed in tangential past issues which have gone by and not be seen in the present or be mis-seen.
Present Field: Dwelling together in the present field: his anger, the therapist’s steadiness, the tension, the unspoken vulnerability can be used to harness the therapeutic relationship as a supportive relationship.
Worksheet
The following worksheet explores the tool of Subterranean Life of the Hour, with examples from the above scenario, and prompts of grounding, naming, attunement, dialogue and integration. If you would like to explore an existential issue – in a customized manner, you can reach out to Prashant Bhatt or 6478181385
Worksheet: Exploring the Subterranean Life of the Hour
This worksheet is meant to help clients (and therapists) pause, reflect, and tune into the implicit life of the present moment.
Eg-Client – in his 40s-struggling with his common law partner lashes out angrily saying has not come here to see family of origin or family of creation (past failed marriage) issues
1- Presence and Absence Shifts
How much each is fully engaged or avoiding or going on tangents
Principle: Engagement
Rest Stop
Does the lashing out mark a rupture. If yes, how would you see it going forward.
If no- why not?
2- Non verbal cues
The tone, volume, silence, interruptions, bodily tension, hesitations and energy of the room
Principle: Mindfulness
Tool: Grounding
Take three slow breaths.
Notice your body: Where do you feel heaviness, tightness, warmth, or flow?
Let the present moment be enough.
Let Go and integrate the breaths with any uneasy feelings
3-Existential themes
Themes such as freedom, mortality, isolation, meaning that may not be consciously acknowledged but shape the therapeutic moment.
Principle: Naming the Hour
Tool: Without analyzing, put words to what is happening here and now.
Eg- The therapist named the anger, unease to explore habits of heart and head.
4- The Living Process Underneath
Listening not only to what is said but also to the living process underneath, the background, development and energy of the therapeutic relationship. How one shows up for the sessions and willingness or unwillingness (it is an evolving spectrum) to engage and be accountable.
Principle: Attunement Practice
- Notice the other person’s face, tone, body language.
- Notice your reactions (tightening, softening, pulling away, leaning in).
- Practice holding both realities—mine and theirs—without judgment
Eg- The creation of empathy, going into the causes and conditions which led a person to have a certain position may be useful clues
Exploring Disconnection, resonance, what is left unspoken can be part of growth.
Rest Stop: When was the last time you felt unheard? How did you react? How do you feel about it now?
Note after the first three steps of
1- Grounding
2- Naming
3- Attunement
We can deepen this process by
4- Dialogue
5- Integration
Step 4. Dialogue with the Subterranean Life
Imagine the subterranean voice of the moment speaking.
1- Mindfulness of time tool- If we were having this conversation 20 years from now, what part of yourself would be protective, supportive of your needs.
2- Mindfulness of time-with spirit tool: if we were two spirits (on a human journey) having this conversation 200 years from now, what would you smile at.
Step 5. Integration
I use Mindfulness (Satipatthana) and Johari window to work through the issues of head and heart, intuition and intellect and create a customized map to help clients navigate and negotiate their journeys.
For eg- in the man in his forties who lashed out, we returned to the breath, body, energy of the room and wrote down one sentence which would capture what he discover about himself, his values and how the world works from the existential dissection of his moments of anger.
End Note
Intellectualization would lead to dismissal using words like “resistance” or pathologizing using terms as “avoidance”. Instead, by leaning into the subterranean life of the hour, engaging, grounding, naming and attuning with the pushback, we explored this factor with an attitude of invitation.
This attuned stance created a doorway to deeper truths: his anger was not against the therapist but against the unease of losing safety again.
All recovery lies in the pause. Pausing to notice and harness the subterranean life of the hour helps discover the underlying truths and longings for connection, recognition and freedom.
